How often does it work out when we get in our heads? It’s playoff season for the NFL, and the consistent and powerful commentary that comes up EVERY YEAR during the NFL playoffs is ‘will this team/player be able to make it happen, or will the pressure of the playoffs get to them’…essentially, will they stop trusting themselves, their skills and their teammates by getting in their own head?
When I am not in my head, I am not in my own way. When I think about the problem, think about how I’m going to handle the problem, when I focus on the challenges, when I think about the context, or why this isn’t right or I’m not right or is this the right way….virtually every time I do that, things don’t work out, or if they do work out, they work out with hick-ups, messy, and not very efficiently.
Control is comfortable. Your brain likes CONTROL. We like it all to work out and be packaged and compartmentalized. Our brain takes us through a process that asks us to find the pattern in life, our gifts, with how things are supposed to work, and often we screw up or overthink to the point of inaction. When I’m in my head, I screw up. Because trust is replaced with doubt and skepticism.
I reflect on my entire life and quite candidly, 9/10 times, when I 'Trust the process', trust myself, when I get out of my head…it works out. And I bet, if you really think on it, you’d be surprised to realize that the same is probably true for you. When I TRUST the process, trust myself, and trust the gifts I know I have, when I stop wanting it to be perfect, fit, in control, when I let go, things seem to fall into place, because doubt and skepticism are replaced with focused and clear belief.
So how are you going to get where you want to go? I’m not entirely sure, but I’m confident that as soon as we leap, we will figure it. You have made it this far, and that same skill, talent and grit we had when you started is still with you now. You will figure it out. Trust yourself.